Amazon Prime Day is on the 13th October this year rather than July. This means you can get exclusive deals right when you need them – before the busiest shopping time of the year. Prime Day is a two day sales event exclusively for Amazon Prime members. There are already early deals online!
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The Amazon Prime Day Sale
To access the exclusive sale, you need to be an Amazon Prime member. You can sign up for a one month trial of Amazon Prime for free, and you will only be charged if you don’t cancel your membership within the month. I have a feeling you may want to keep your membership because it has such amazing benefits, including:
Free delivery – unlimited shipping on millions of items (this depends on where you live and the item – see the Terms and Conditions on the Amazon site)
Award winning movies and TV shows. Watch exclusive content like Amazon originals
Over 2 million songs ad-free
Original Audio series from Audible
Why I use Amazon Prime
Prior to joining Amazon Prime I was paying nearly $20 for Netflix, $18 for Spotify and $13.99 for Kindle Unlimited per month. Now I can get all that plus more for $12.99 with Amazon Prime! (Note I still pay a small amount for my Kindle books). The movies and TV shows alone are worth joining up. I will be doing most of my Christmas shopping online this year and the vast choice on Amazon Shopping means I won’t have to buy from lots of different outlets.
Watch this Space for Deals
From now until the end of the Amazon Prime Day sale I will be posting deals as they come up. These will be selected for my readers based on what I know you will love. I am looking mainly at health products, fitness gear, walking shoes and clothes, home beauty & spa products, eco friendly items and books. Watch my social media profiles for more.
For example, here are some deals you can buy straight away:
This Kindle e-Reader Bundle is $169.97, down from $189.97. My price as an Amazon Prime member is $119.97. There are thousands of items with similar savings to this.
These walking shoes are a great price even with the shipping cost to Australia.
Such a bargain for a fitness tracker.
Keep watching this space for more deals as I see them. Some deals will only be available for a short time, but undoubtedly you will be able to buy a similar item for a great price if you miss out.
Don’t forget, the main sale is on the 13th and 14th October. Join up for a free 30 day trial with Amazon Prime to access the sale. Watch this page for great deals as I find them.
Amazon Prime’s Australian Sale has already started!
October is Breast Cancer Awareness month. I will be featuring breast cancer awareness in my blogs, as well as hereditary cancer. My focus on cancer awareness this month is due to a passion for health promotion. I can speak from experience because I have been a Registered Nurse for 30 years as well as having diagnostic tests and multiple surgeries.
If you have been following Midlifestylist.com you may be aware that I have BRCA2 gene mutation which increases my risk of breast and other cancers. Both my parents died of cancer – mum was my age, 54. My father had BRCA2 as well. He had prostate cancer and pancreatic cancer, and passed away when he was 84. His father also died of prostate cancer and his sister died of ovarian cancer. My son and two siblings had melanoma. Cancer has therefore impacted my life dramatically.
This year I had prophylactic surgeries to remove my ovaries and breasts. That is because my chance of getting cancer was so high. Unfortunately I had complications from both operations and required 3 extra operations. I’m still recovering and have not been able to return to work since May.
Raising awareness of breast cancer and BRCA2
I can use my blog as an avenue of passing on my knowledge and experience of the impact of cancer and hereditary cancer risk. Raising awareness will hopefully spare other families from seeing one of their loved ones suffer from cancer.
My previous blog posts about BRCA2 and cancer are:
The first of every month is the day women should perform a breast self examination. My next post in this series will show you the correct way to perform the breast self examination, and what symptoms to look for.
It makes sense to reduce your kitchen waste as it saves money and is better for the environment. This article will discuss some easy ways that you can be less wasteful in your kitchen, and ways you can lower your carbon footprint using eco-friendly alternatives.
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Just by swapping to eco-friendly products you can effectively reduce kitchen waste. Look for items made from the following materials:
Bioplastic compostable products made from Sugar cane, corn or potato starch
Reduce Your Kitchen Waste – Only buy what you need
I discussed this in my article How to Eat a Healthy Diet On a Budget. By only buying what you need, you can reduce food waste. Use a list when you shop, only bulk buy if you know you will consume it by the expiry date, and shop at wholefood stores where you can buy ingredients by weight. Avoid products with a lot of packaging, for example fruit or vegetables with plastic wrapping and trays. I cringe every time I see the unnecessary packaging in supermarkets. Buying from markets can be far better for the environment and the produce will be much fresher.
Compost your food waste
You can reduce your carbon footprint by composting your food waste at home. Home composting saves your waste ending up in landfill. Landfills are responsible for much of the methane gas, a byproduct of composting organic material. Landfill gas, a combination of methane and carbon dioxide, is responsible for much of the greenhouse gas emissions.
Use alternatives to plastic bags and food wraps in the kitchen
By swapping plastic with eco-friendly alternatives you will drastically reduce the amount of waste going to landfill. Choose compostable bags and food wraps, silicone lids for containers, beeswax wraps, muslin bags, and storage containers made from glass or stainless steel.
I have a set of silicone lids which are a great way to avoid using plastic wrap. They come in different sizes and can stretch over bowls or to save cut fruit. They may be hand washed or put in the top rack of the dishwasher. My set has lasted at least two years.
Reusing and re-purposing plastic
A common question among people trying to reduce kitchen waste is: should I throw out all my plastic bags and containers? The answer is, absolutely not! That will only add to the landfill. Instead, try to reuse them as much as possible before you discard them. Re-purpose them elsewhere.
Plastic containers could be used for storage. Even ones that have lost their lids could be used as dividers in your sock drawer or bathroom. Reuse plastic until it’s completely unsuitable for further use, and only buy sustainable products from now on.
Use stainless steel, silicone or ceramic alternatives to disposable or plastic
Reusable items include drinking straws, coffee mugs, drink containers with lids, coffee pods and lunch boxes. You will save money as well as reduce plastic use.
Swap paper towel and cleaning implements to eco-friendly alternatives
I love the fact that there are now reusable alternatives to so many products. Everything from cotton or cellulose dishcloths to coconut pot scrubbers are now available. Look for products made from sustainable materials, including the packaging they come in. The bonus is that they look great, especially the bamboo ones.
As someone who has multiple allergies and very sensitive skin, it is vital for me to avoid strong chemicals. Eco-friendly cleaning products made from natural ingredients are better for the environment and less allergenic to my skin. Look for pure Castile soap products.
Where to find stockists of eco-friendly goods
We are lucky to be able to purchase a huge range of eco-friendly products in Australia. Our supermarkets and department stores have increased their range over the years and there are specialty stores as well. You can find a lot of eco-friendly products online. The Well Store sells not only environmentally friendly homeware, but also food and health supplements.
Because of my allergies I am always on the search for products that are hypo-allergenic and made ethically from natural ingredients. The Well Store has an extensive range for personal and home use. I recommend this company to anyone trying to reduce waste in their kitchen, and lower their carbon footprint.
Reduce your kitchen waste
To sum up, reducing waste in your kitchen is as easy as swapping plastic and disposable products with reusable or compostable products. You will not only reduce your carbon footprint, ultimately you will save money. You may purchase many of the products from supermarkets or specialty stores such as The Well Store.
Can you suggest other ways to reduce your kitchen waste? I’d love to hear what ways you are environmentally friendly at home. Leave a comment below.
Before Starting Your Workout at Home
This equipment is enough to get you started on your home gym. Remember the most important aspect of exercising is to choose one you enjoy and stick to it. Get into a good routine where you exercise regularly, whether that be cardio and strength three times a week or second daily yoga. Any regular exercise is essential for your mental and emotional health. If you are new to regular exercise or have significant health problems, see your doctor prior to starting a new exercise regime (see my disclaimer – this post is intended for general informational purposes only).
Women’s Health Week is from 7 – 11 September this year. Women’s Health Week is a week dedicated to all women across Australia to make good health a priority. Every day this week I have been publishing Women’s Health tips to promote women’s health. This post will discuss each tip in more depth and provide links so that you may learn more. I am passionate about promoting health and have been using social media posts for this. Links to my social media accounts are at the top of the page.
Women’s Health Tip 1 – Exercise Regularly
Improve your health by exercising regularly. Find an exercise you love and stick to it. That may be a brisk walk for 30 minutes a day, a yoga session, or a dance lesson. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as you enjoy it and do it on a regular basis. If you are moving your body daily you will reap the benefits, both mental and physical. Don’t let health issues hold you back. In this post I explain how I overcame my health issues and don’t let them stop me from maintaining my exercise.
Women’s Health Tip 2 – Eat a Healthy Diet
Eat a healthy diet that is balanced and doesn’t cut out whole food groups (unless you have specific health reasons to avoid them such as allergies). A healthy diet includes food from all food groups – protein, carbohydrates, healthy fats, whole-grains and dairy or it’s alternatives. Diets that cut whole food groups out are fad diets and can’t be sustained without health issues. One of the most important indicators of health is your waist size. Eating a healthy diet can be seen to reduce the amount of fat stored around your waist and reduce your risk of health issues such as diabetes and cardiovascular disease. Read more about it at this post.
Women’s Health Tip 3 – Take Time for Self Care
Taking time for self care is important for your mental and emotional health. You may find yourself caring for others, and being so busy you don’t have time for YOU. Make self care a priority in your routine. Find something you enjoy – try meditation, singing, hobbies, dancing, yoga, massage, beauty treatments or just relaxing with a good book. Our emotional health is being tested this year, with many people finding they are more stressed than usual due to the pandemic. That means it is even more important that you prioritise your self care, which you can read more about in this post.
Women’s Health Tip 4 – Get Health Checks Done
Make sure you are aware of what health screening is recommended for women in your age group. This may differ according to your place of residence. Ensure you attend to monthly breast self examinations and check your skin for changes. Maintain a regular schedule of screening for your breasts, dental health, eyes, and heart (blood pressure, cholesterol and other blood tests). Depending on your age, you may need bowel cancer screening, regular pelvic examinations, bone density test and mammograms. Your doctor will advise you of any further tests you may require depending on your personal and family health history. More information is in this post and I will have a post in the future on health checks.
Women’s Health Tip 5 – Be an Advocate for Your Well-being
You are your own advocate. Speak up if you are concerned, or if you feel your concerns are not being addressed adequately. Those niggly feelings that something is wrong should not be ignored. See a doctor if you are worried. This post will help you decide whether your symptoms mean you should see a doctor. The head in the sand approach does not work with health. It’s easier to treat things if they are in their early stages, and it’s far better to prevent disease than treat it.
Women’s Health is Important
Women make up over 50% of the population. Women’s health is important because we are often the main caregiver of others. We often put our own needs last and ignore health issues until we are really unwell. Stay in tune with your body, and look after it. Don’t take your health for granted because it takes all the joy out of life if you are in poor health. By following these women’s health tips, hopefully you will feel inspired to prioritise your well-being. For further information about Women’s Health Week visit the official website.
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This article will tell you how to eat a healthy diet on a budget. We all want to eat well. Most of us want to eat a healthy diet. One of the barriers to eating a healthy diet is the cost of healthy food compared to junk food. The cost of buying individual ingredients, and the time taken with cooking something healthy as opposed to buying fast food on the way home from work can often lead us to consuming unhealthy junk food.
It is a fallacy however, that you can’t eat a healthy diet on a budget. The key to eating a healthy diet lies in planning for the long term. Here are some tips for eating healthy on a budget:
Tips for Healthy Eating on a Budget
Grocery Shopping Tips
Stock your pantry so that you have the ingredients for easy meals on hand. This means you’re less likely to order Uber Eats or takeaways. See my guide to stocking your pantry below.
Buy in bulk, especially staples that last a long time if stored correctly.
Buy when the specials are on, but only food that you know you will use.
Only eat in season fruit and vegetables. For example, a cauliflower can cost $2 in season or $8 out of season. The other advantage to buying fruit and vegetables in season is that they are fresher and often have less chemicals and packaging than store bought ones if bought from the markets.
Buy frozen fruit and vegetables when they are out of season. Frozen fruit and vegetables retain their nutrients as they are snap frozen straight after harvesting. They last a long time and are often cheaper than fresh.
Only buy what you need. I buy two tomatoes per week because I would waste a whole bag.
Plan what meals you will be cooking for the week and only buy the ingredients for those recipes. This reduces waste. We have stores where you can take your own containers and buy foods such as wholefoods by the weight. Some supermarkets offer this service as well.
Buy generic brands. They are often a similar quality as branded versions, and are often hard to distinguish from the more expensive brands.
Buy alternative protein sources such as tofu and legumes. They can be very cheap compared to meat and chicken. Try to have two meat-free meals per week.
Buy cheaper cuts of meat and cook them in a slow cooker. Slow cooking is a fantastic way of making tougher meat such as chuck steak, into tender, melt-in-the-mouth meals.
Avoid buying food that you already have. Check your cupboards and make a list of what you need before you head to the shops. I have found since I’ve been doing online grocery shopping that I’ve saved money. Instead of buying something unnecessarily I can check my cupboards to make sure I need it. I also do less impulse buying of unhealthy treats.
Don’t go shopping when you’re hungry! You will be likely to put more into your trolley, and it would most likely be unhealthy food.
If you do go to the shops, avoid aisles that have unhealthy food. I don’t even walk down the chocolate, sweet and soft drink aisles. Stick to the perimeter of the store as this is where the wholefoods are.
Prepare Your Own Food as it is Cheaper
Wholefoods are cheaper than heavily processed foods. A bag of rolled oats is much cheaper than oat based muesli with fruit. You can make your own muesli, or try my overnight oats recipe.
Make your own stirfry sauces and recipe bases from scratch. Ready-made ones are often full of sugar and salt and are very expensive. Use fresh ginger, garlic, onion and low sodium soy sauces for your stirfry sauce instead.
Grow your own vegetables – even a few plants in containers for herbs and easy-to-grow vegetables, can save you money and provide nutritious and fresh additions to your diet.
Invest in a bread maker. I can buy a huge bag of baker’s flour which lasts a few weeks. Our own sweet and savoury loaves such as fruit and nut bread, banana bread, focaccia and pizza bases are easy to make and save us heaps of money.
Other things I make myself rather than buy ready-made are Greek yoghurt and salad.
Since my sons moved out I find I’m still cooking enough for four people. I freeze the remainder in meal-sized portions so there’s always a meal that we can defrost and heat if we’re too tired to cook.
Save $5 per day by making your own coffee at home. I have a fantastic Delonghi coffee maker that grinds, and brews the coffee, and even froths the milk. The initial cost of the coffee machine is high, but it pays for itself quickly if you have 1-2 cups per day rather than going to the cafe.
Prepare your lunches for the week ahead. Some ideas are:
How to Stock Your Pantry With Healthy Food on a Budget
This is a guide for stocking your pantry. If you have the following in your pantry you will be able to cook most recipes and avoid having to buy takeaways. A well stocked pantry will help you to eat a healthy diet on a budget. I always have the following in my pantry:
Tins of tomatoes, beans (kidney and cannelloni), corn
Does the cost of healthy food put you off buying it? It is actually a fallacy that healthy food is expensive. That is because we are bombarded with messages about super-foods. These so-called super-foods are trendy, and the price is bumped up accordingly because the demand for them is high. There are other foods that are much more readily available, and offer the same health benefits at a much lower cost.
I have compiled a list of the healthiest food you can buy. These foods are not only healthy, they are versatile, easy to prepare and cheaper than so called super-foods. These foods are usually well tolerated by most people, and are nutrient dense. That means you get more buck for your dollar. If you would like a copy of the list, plus a handy shopping list template and a guide to buying healthy food, the link is below:
The right kitchen appliances can help you to eat a healthy diet on a budget. Here are my recommendations for appliances that can help you save money:
Delonghi Coffee Machine
I save $5 – $10 per day by brewing my own coffee. My son and I bought this coffee maker and when he moved out he took it with him. I loved it so much I bought another one. I like that it uses coffee beans, not pods which are bad for the environment. It grinds and brews the coffee as required, and it also can froth milk for a cappuccino. There is a power-saving mode so it switches off when not in use. I use the coffee grinds on the garden so there is very little waste.
Breville Slow cooker
A slow cooker is one of the best money saving appliances you can buy. I still use my crock pot, the original slow cooker, which I received as a gift in 1987! That version is long gone, but you may still buy the Crock Pot brand slow cooker. The Breville Slow Cooker is my husband’s and it is almost as good as my ancient one. It just shows you how long quality appliances last if you look after them. A slow cooker transforms cheap cuts of meat into beautiful, melt-in-the-mouth meals with very little fuss. Just put all the ingredients in, and turn it on for 4-6 hours and your meal will be ready to serve.
Breville bread maker
My bread maker is my new favourite appliance. Because I have spent much more time at home than usual this year, I have been experimenting with many different types of cooking. Making bread is so incredibly easy in this bread maker that I make at least two loaves per week. You just add all the ingredients to the bread maker bowl, program the machine, and it does it all – kneads, proofs and bakes the bread. We’ve made fruit and nut loaves, pizza bases, foccacia, wholegrain and white bread and they’re all amazing.
Panasonic Microwave Oven
My microwave oven is perhaps the most utilised appliance in our kitchen. I really don’t know where I’d be without it. This particular model is an inverter oven so it defrosts, cooks and heats food with more precision than an ordinary oven. The reason it is such a great appliance is it is fabulous for cooking a quick healthy meal, or to defrost and heat one from your freezer. This means you’re not resorting to buying takeaways.
The Health Benefits of a Healthy Diet
Healthy food fuels your body. You will maintain a steady weight, have more energy, will be able to concentrate better and have less health issues. Eating convenience and junk food should be a rarity. It may be cheaper in the short term to eat something convenient, but in the long term the cost to your health will add up. Using the above suggestions, you will be able to learn how to eat a healthy diet on a budget.
I lost 17kg last year on a Government sponsored program. I had a phone consult with a Dietician regularly throughout the program, which was the key to my successful weight loss. Most of my weight loss came down to my diet because the only exercise I am able to do is walking due to chronic back pain and other health issues. Your diet is vital for maintaining a healthy weight, and preventing illness.
I am a Registered Nurse, but my background isn’t specifically in nutrition.I recommend that you consult a Dietician and a General Practitioner if you have health issues or a lot of weight to lose to get you into the healthy weight range. This post is for general informational and educational purposes only. Please refer to the disclaimer.
This year I’ve noticed many more people talking about how they’re feeling demotivated, distressed, fed-up and down in the dumps. Many people have begun to let their healthy diet and exercise routines slide, and their waistline expand. The affects of the global pandemic on our well-being are really starting to become apparent as it drags on with no end in sight. The uncertainty, isolation and risks to our health and lifestyle are all factors in causing this decrease in our state of well-being.
Our well-being won’t just miraculously improve if we don’t make an effort to change our routines. We have to work at it because it’s all too easy to be lazy and get into bad habits. Frequently people get into a rut and can’t see any end to their current situation. It’s as if a black cloud is over their head. A few down days can lead to depression.
Clinical depression needs to be treated by health care professionals such as psychologists and medical doctors. (I am not a trained professional in these fields. Please refer to my disclaimer. This article should be used for informational purposes only). I’m not talking about depression in this article, rather the low mood that many of us are experiencing due to the current pandemic. If your mood has not improved after a few weeks, please seek professional help.
I’ve had to be proactive and work at maintaining my mental health. My tendency to shut down and go into a shell, wallowing in misery, didn’t work for me in the past. Over time I’ve found there are activities I can do to improve my mood.
How to Use All 5 Senses to Improve Your Well-being When Life Is Getting You Down
You can use all five senses to improve your mood and your well-being. For example, who can deny that the fresh whiff of coffee in the morning doesn’t immediately heighten your sense of smell? Or that a warm hug from someone you love doesn’t make you feel calmer and happier? I am a very sensory person, and I’ve found the following have helped:
TOUCH: I had a massage. I normally have a remedial full body massage but I still can’t lie on my front so I had a sitting massage instead. To make the most of it I used deep breathing techniques to relax my muscles. These tiny Thai masseurs are so strong, you feel like you’ve done 3 rounds with a sumo wrestler! But it works.
SOUND: Listening to uplifting music. I was born in the 60s so I love 70s and 80s music. I can sing as loud as I like to my favourite hits and it’s always a mood booster.
SMELL: A splash of my favourite perfume lifts my spirits. I don’t save my scent for special occasions. I use it daily because it makes me feel better to smell nice. Using scented candles and reed diffusers has also helped.
SIGHT: Taking time to watch the sunset, or admire a beautiful scene is uplifting. While I’m out walking my dog every day I take time to look at my surroundings. I’m lucky to live where I have lovely parks and waterways nearby. My dog’s a social butterfly so we end up meeting lots of dogs and their owners. It’s nice to say hello or stop and chat if they’re up for it.
TASTE: I’ve done lots of cooking. It’s starting to show as the weight’s starting to creep up. Only 1kg but since I lost 17kg last year I’m very wary of gaining any weight. So I’ve gone back to basics and getting back on a healthy diet. It’s easy to grab convenience food when you’re feeling low, but taking the effort to prepare fresh food will boost your mood. Eating lots of fruit and vegetables, quality protein and healthy fats will make you feel more energised.
Other Ways I’m Boosting My Mood
Sometimes we have to push ourselves to be proactive in improving our well-being. I know what depression is like and it’s easy for me to slide into that state of mind. Rather than just allowing myself to stay in a rut, I push myself to do activities that I know will boost my mood.
I credit my improved sense of well-being to the following:
Putting a bit of make-up on every day. Then I don’t feel so daggy.
I’ve had a couple of phone sessions with a counsellor. Getting the perspective of an impartial person about my long recovery time has really helped. My takeaway from the sessions – I’ve been looking after everyone else for the last 30 plus years so it’s time to look after myself. And let others look after me (which I find hard to do).
I’ve been spending time socialising. My nature is an introverted homebody so I tend to stay home where I’m in my comfort zone. I know that the most uplifting activity for me is having meaningful conversations with people. So I make an effort to meet someone to talk over coffee or a meal. Phoning them is the next best thing. It improves my well-being so much.
I’ve been de-cluttering and tidying. Just one area of the house at a time. There’s nothing better than a good cleanout! I can’t do too much housework because it increases the pain and swelling, so I just do a little bit every day.
I’ve been spending time in my garden every day. Spring is upon us in Australia and the spring growth has begun. It’s been a very long winter because time has dragged by for me and I’m really looking forward to warmer weather. We’re lucky to have a pond with fountains in our garden. The sound of cascading water is music to my soul.
What ways do you use to improve your well-being? Share them here so others can benefit.
Just a head’s up, I saw my surgeon a couple of days ago, and because my swelling and pain are ongoing he’s going to operate again on Monday. I’ll be in hospital for a few days and have a drain for a few weeks. While I’m in hospital I won’t be allowed visitors which will be horrible. Not having the support of my family will be really hard but I know this is necessary to assist my healing and prevent further complications.
Because of this, I may be a bit inconsistent with my blog for the next few weeks.
We have a thriving garden this year. One of the vegetables we’re growing is beetroot. Beetroot is, as the name suggests, a root vegetable. It has multiple health benefits:
Nutrients include folate (Vitamin B9), manganese, potassium, iron and Vitamin C
Improves blood flow and reduces blood pressure
Low in calories – one beet has only 43 kCal
Versatile – eat raw, cooked or pickled. The leaves may also be eaten
Contains 8-10% carbohydrates, but doesn’t cause a sharp rise in blood glucose levels. Therefore they are suitable for diabetics. However they contain fructans, so they are not suitable for low FODMAP diets
One of my favourite ways to eat beetroot is roasted. This retains the flavour and doesn’t add fat, salt or sugar to the beets. Here are the simple directions:
Cut off any leaves, stems and roots. Scrub the skin with a vegetable scrubbing brush
Wrap the beet in Alfoil. Use a large piece of Alfoil – it should be enough to wrap the beet in two layers of foil
Bake in the oven for 45mins – 1 hour depending on the size of the beet. This large beet took one hour at 200 degrees celsius. I don’t roast beets on their own, I just put them in a tray and cook them at the same time as other food.
Open the foil up carefully to allow the steam out. Allow beet to cool
Peel skin of beet with a paring knife
Cut beet into cubes. Add to salads for colour, texture and flavour
Beetroot, Spinach and Feta Salad Recipe
2 roast beetroot, cubed
2 cups baby spinach, washed
60 g Reduced Fat Feta Cheese, cut into small pieces or cubed
20 ml Greek Salad Dressing or Vinaigrette
1 Lebanese cucumber, cubed
Optional Ingredients – choose one or more
1 cup roast pumpkin or sweet potato
2 tablespoons pine nuts, or sunflower kernels or pumpkin seeds (roasted)
1 cup cherry tomatoes
1 cup snow peas
Combine ingredients. Serves two
Total calories per serve 130 kCal (for basic recipe)
Carbs 12.6 g
Fat 5.2 g
Protein 9.2 g
Beetroot, Spinach and Feta Salad Recipe
An easy, nutritious recipe which may be customised to suit your taste with optional extra ingredients.
Our self identity is what defines us. Self identity is formed in childhood, largely by our parents. It develops over time, much of it stemming from the roles we take on. These roles may be chosen by ourselves, or inflicted on us by chance. The roles we identify with most strongly are what makes us who we are, and form our self identity. My roles as a nurse, mother and wife are the ones I identify with the most.
One of my roles – My 30 years as a Registered Nurse
This month marks 30 years since I graduated as a Registered Nurse. I was one of the last hospital trained nurses to graduate from the Mater Misericordiae Public Hospital in Brisbane. Nursing has been an incredibly rewarding career, and it forms a large part of my self identity.
My nursing career has taken me to the Northern Territory where I spent a year in a tiny 10 bed remote hospital. We did everything there – Accident and Emergency, Theatre, and nursing paediatrics and adults. I even assisted the midwives deliver babies which was amazing. We had our own plane and pilot so we did retrievals to remote outback areas, and down to Alice Springs.
Most of my career has been in surgical nursing in hospitals. I did a stint in palliative care but got really burnt out – I’m not cut out for that kind of nursing and really admire those that are. It’s a rewarding job but incredibly taxing on your body, especially the type of nursing I do.
What happens when a role that we identify with, disappears one day?
I’ve been unable to return to work for over three months, since my bilateral mastectomies. Because of the demanding nature of my job, I can’t return to work until I’m able to perform CPR and all the requirements of working as a nurse. While I’m glad I’m not pushed back to work before I’m ready, I’m finding it incredibly hard to wait patiently while my body heals.
Because I haemorrhaged the day after my mastectomies, I still have residual swelling and pain on the left side. Even a small amount of activity like light housework and shopping, causes more pain and swelling. There’s no way to tell how long it will be like this.
Missing my role as a nurse
I was expecting to be able to return to week six weeks after my surgery. It’s probably a good thing that I didn’t know I’d be off this long as I would have seriously considered delaying the surgery. That delay could have been detrimental to my well-being as my chances of getting breast cancer were so high.
I’m able to fill my days with other activities like writing (thank God for my blog!), and cooking, but I miss working. Nursing is so much a part of me – a strong aspect of my identity – it feels like part of me is missing. Nursing is such a fulfilling career. There’s nothing better than being able to make someone more comfortable, and assist them to heal.
I miss my colleagues too. Nurses have a real camaraderie. We can laugh and cry together, knowing that our job will make us feel so many emotions, usually all in one shift. I know there are many healthcare workers working incredibly hard under stressful conditions at the moment because of all the extra precautions we have to take due to Covid-19. To be stuck on the sidelines while my colleagues are struggling is frustrating. I just want to help out!
Over the last few years my health has taken several blows and I’ve struggled with the workload and shiftwork. Physically I’m struggling to cope with the demands of my job, but I still feel I have a lot left to give. I really don’t know what the future holds but I know if I can’t return to work as a nurse in some capacity I will really miss it.
The roles we identify with may be learned from our parents
I’ve written about identity in the past, and I feel my strongest roles that I identify with are being a mother and a nurse. This month also marks 28 years since I became a mother. Being a mother has been incredibly rewarding. I had a strong role model in my own mum, and I have tried to emulate her. There is no way anyone could come up to her standard! Our mothering styles differed somewhat – she was a stay at home mum for one thing. I don’t know if she would have approved of me working throughout my kids’ lives (apart from 4 months’ maternity leave for each of them). She passed away before she became a grandmother.
My husband and I will soon be empty nesters because my son is finally moving out! I loved having them live at home but they’re well and truly old enough to spread their wings. Because I left home for good at 19 so it’s extraordinary that my sons lived at home till they were 24 and 28. I must have made it too easy for them!
Merging two families can cause conflict
My husband came into our lives when my sons were in their late teens. He doesn’t have kids of his own. He took the right approach and didn’t try to be their father, which wouldn’t have gone down well at all. We’ve all lived together for about 6 ½ years so it’ll be nice for the two of us to finally have the house to ourselves. We’re looking forward to it.
Merging two families didn’t go smoothly all the time. My parenting style was different to my in-laws’ parenting style. I was used to being independent and not having family around to help out. My kids were very independent as well. Phil’s family live 5 minutes from each other and spend a lot of time together. I can go months without seeing my family (especially with the border closures at the moment) but Phil sees or speaks to his family nearly every day.
There have been rocky patches, particularly between his mother and I. She couldn’t understand what I was going through when I was grieving my dad. My husband was working away for days at a time, week after week and it was very hard. I had a fall out with her that lasted a couple of years.
I sensed real concern for me this year when I was going through my surgeries, and that has helped smooth things over between us. I’m so glad we’ve been able to patch things up because it put a strain on the whole family. We’re having them over for Father’s Day brunch which will be the first time in a few years that they all come here.
My relationship with the rest of his family has been much better. I gained his parents, brother, sister-in-law, two nieces and a nephew when I married my husband. I’m so happy to have a close bond with them because I no longer have my parents and sister, and I don’t see my brothers and nephews much (especially since the border closed between my state and theirs).
When one of our roles disappears, our self identity suffers
Mother, daughter, nurse, wife, sister, auntie, friend – many of my roles in life, and a strong part of my identity. These roles have shaped who I am and when one of the roles is absent, I feel lost. I’m able to compensate by spending more time in the other roles. It’s been lovely having more time to spend with my loved ones, and not be constantly tired from shift work. The challenge now is to accept that I am still me, even though I’m not working at the moment. I can channel my desire to help people into this blog, and still feel like I’m doing something worthwhile.
My role as a mother is changing with my sons leaving home. I’m still their mother though! That will never change. I’ve done my part – they’re fully functioning adults. Now I can enjoy my role as a wife more. We’ll have more quality time to spend together without the distraction of young people around. It’s something I look forward to, as I want to grow old together with my husband.
The roles we have help form our identity. When one of those roles disappears or changes, it can affect our self identity. We can compensate by spending more time on our other roles, and adjusting the way we think of ourselves.
What roles do you identify with? If one role disappeared, would you feel like part of you wasmissing?