Staying positive despite setbacks

Updates on Midlifestylist

It’s five weeks since my bilateral mastectomies and in that time there have been triumphs and setbacks. I’ve been trying to stay positive even though things have not gone as planned, and my recovery has been slow. I’ve been filling my time to help deal with my recovery time at home.

First the triumphs:

Midlifestylist News:

  • Midlifestylist is now officially a business! I registered the business name on the Australian Business Register and applied for an ABN (Australian Business Number). It’s exciting to see my business name on official documents. I first thought of the name seven years ago and bought a domain name but didn’t officially start my blog until October 2019. If I start earning money through my website I’ll need to pay tax so I thought it would be worth registering the name officially.
  • While I’ve been at home healing I completed a legal course for my website. I knew I’d need to get the legal side of things done before my website grew any further but haven’t had the time to sit down and tackle it until now. The course was very beneficial and included all the templates for Terms and Conditions, Disclosures, Privacy Policy and Disclaimers. A blogger that I follow had her blog plagiarised by a B-grade celebrity who made thousands of dollars off a book that she compiled from 4 or 5 bloggers’ work. The course I did covers copyright and what to do if your work is plagiarised. I recommend this course and if you’re interested, click the link highlighted. The basic course is free. If you buy one of the other courses I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Read the full disclosure here.

Personal news:

  • My niece Ally, her friend Coralee and I raised over $1000 for breast cancer research by taking part in the GO PINK campaign. We dyed our hair pink and did a live feed which was a lot of fun.
  • My husband and I baked bread for the first time. He did all the mixing and kneading because I’m still not able to do anything strenuous. We ate 3/4 of the loaf with some homemade vegetable soup because it was so moreish. We have a bread-maker on order but it won’t come until July. It looks like everyone else had the same idea when there were shortages of everything in the shops.
  • Our vegetable garden is thriving and we’re already eating produce from it. Every year it improves because with trial and error we’re finding the best ways to do things. The weather has been perfect for growing too with lovely sunny days and plenty of rain. Winter really is the perfect time of the year in Queensland.
  • I’ve been collaborating with other bloggers on some projects which are new and exciting. One of the best things about blogging is the community of like-minded individuals that you meet online. Reading their blogs gives you another perspective as well.
Freshly baked bread - learning new skills and trying new recipes have been some of the ways I have filled my time
Freshly baked bread

Now the setbacks:

  • I still have a lot of swelling and the wound is taking a long time to heal because of the massive post-op bleed I had on the left side. I had to have another course of antibiotics and I’ve been very restricted in what I’m allowed to do. I’m supposed to start back at work on Monday but I’m not up to that because nursing is a very active job and I’m not allowed to lift anything or do strenuous work yet. I was referred to a haematologist to try to get to the bottom of why I bled so much. It may be genetic because I’ve had a few other instances in my life of unexplained bleeding. There have been days when it all gets too much and I’ll be very down in the dumps and cry, but I’m able to bounce back and am in a positive frame of mind most of the time. I’ve had a lot of support so that definitely helps.
  • Because my mobility has been restricted I’ve been very tired at times. The worst week was when my husband went back to work after looking after me for 3 weeks. I wasn’t allowed to drive so was catching the bus and tram which meant catching 2 buses to get to my doctors’ appointments and 2 home, plus walking. I can drive short distances now and that’s been a huge improvement. We hired dog walkers so that my dog didn’t miss out on his walk and now that I can drive I can take him to a dog park where I can park so close that he can jump out of the car and go straight onto the off-leash area so I don’t have to hold his lead. He’s a big boy and at the moment I’m not up to him pulling on his lead.

The Pandemic and Social Distancing

The social distancing laws are gradually easing in Australia which is a big relief. The border between Queensland and New South Wales will open in a couple of weeks so I’ll finally be able to visit my brother who lives an hour away. We have a camping trip planned for the last weekend in August which has been delayed twice before. We’re really hoping we’ll be able to go this time. My sister-in-law’s 50th birthday party can finally go ahead as well – she was waiting for restrictions to ease. It has an Alice in Wonderland theme so I’ve been making a costume – watch this space as I may be brave enough to publish photos!

I hope all my readers are staying well and coping with whatever restrictions are on in your part of the world. This year has certainly put a lot of stress on to people and we’re all having to cope with current events. There’s still a lot of unrest from the Black Lives Matter movement, which I wrote about in my last post. I hope that this year’s events bring about lasting change for the better. The world has now woken up and it would be awesome if we all learnt the lessons that are available to us.

Taking my dog for a walk daily has been one of my favourite activities while recovering from surgery
Taking my dog for a walk daily has been one of my favourite activities while recovering from surgery

While recovering from surgery there are triumphs and setbacks. It’s important to stay positive and look to the future as this period in my life won’t last forever. I don’t regret making the decision to do risk-reducing surgery as it means my chances of getting cancer are reduced almost to zero. No matter how hard things seem right now, it is important to focus on the bigger picture. I’ve been through much worse than this in the past and I know I have the inner strength to get through this as well.

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17 Comments

  1. You are such a positive inspiration Christina and congratulations on making Midlifestylist a business. I love that despite all you are going through you have kept going and not given up. You are one strong lady! Take care and thanks for sharing at #MLSTL. BTW that bread looks delicious!

    1. Hi Sue, thank you so much. I also get a ton of inspiration from you and other midlife bloggers. I love this community of supportive people! The bread was delicious and fun to make. Regards. Christina

  2. Oh my goodness Christina! There are some real highs in this list and congratulations on registering the business and using your recovery time to learn. Wishing you swift healing & thanks for the inspiration. #MLSTL

    1. Thanks so much Jo, the main positive is that I have time to sit at the computer for long lengths of time and I can still use my brain! I’m glad you enjoyed it, regards Christina

  3. Hi Christina – I loved all your positives and that you’re making the most of life despite the problems with your post-op recovery. To have had such a huge op + complications will definitely mean you need to be kind to yourself for quite a long time. I think you’re doing amazingly well!
    Thanks for linking up with us at MLSTL and I’ve shared on my SM 😊

    1. Thanks so much Leanne. I agree, I need to look after myself at the moment. I’m only cheating myself if I do too much because it will delay my recovery. It’s hard slowing down though when I’m used to being really active! Thanks for commenting and sharing, regards Christina

  4. Thank you for sharing the ups and downs. I think it helps others to realize we’re all in this life together, and everyone suffers setbacks and can still appreciate life’s joys at the same time. Best wishes to you with your health and congratulations on getting your business license.

    1. Hi Christie, thanks for your feedback. It’s good to be realistic because these days people are inclined to post only the best stuff, and that is why it affects people’s self image. They wonder why their life isn’t perfect. Social media has a lot to answer to in that regards. Thankyou for your kind words of support, it is much appreciated, regards Christina

  5. Hi Christina,
    You are so open about the ups and downs…and there are bound to be both, yes? You have my admiration for the equilibrium with which you seemed to have handled this challenge! And, to take on the task of transitioning the blog to a business with all that entails at this time is pretty inspiring to me. Congrats on the steps forward with your web presence and be patient with yourself as you heal.
    Nancy

    1. Hi Nancy, working on my blog has been a welcome distraction from the negatives that come from recovering from an operation. I’ve never had this amount of time to spare before so I’m using it wisely! Thanks so much for your comment, much appreciated. Regards, Christina

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